A Proud Letter To My Daughter: This Is What I Want You To Know

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Last night, I couldn’t help but look at my little girl in awe at how hardworking and focused she was. There are so many things I want her to know, which is why I’ve decided to write a proud letter to my daughter. 

Generally, I’m a positive person, but lately, I’ve been pondering the brevity of life. Does my daughter know how much I love her? Have I been able to instill in her the core values that I pray she lives by?

God knows I tell her how much she means to me on a regular basis. But if something were to happen and suddenly, I was gone, how would she cope?

This is why I’ve written a beautiful letter that will hopefully help steer her in the right direction, even on the most challenging days.

I want my baby girl to know the importance of hard work, honesty, integrity, and most importantly – self-worth.

I want her to live an authentic, unapologetic life even if one day, I’m no longer there to guide her.

It saddens me profusely when I think about not being by her side during monumental moments of her life. 

While I pray we navigate it side by side, here’s a letter to my daughter encompassing everything I want her to know about life.

Dear daughter,

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I’ll never forget the first time I held you in my arms. I was so young and scared, but most of all – excited to the bone. 

The day before, it was just me and your daddy.

And then all of a sudden, there was a new bundle of joy that had already completely shifted our lives!

It was impossible to describe, yet incredible to feel.

From the first moment I saw you, I knew you were going to be a free spirit.

You had that spark in your eyes that let me know you were going to become one hell of a woman one day.

And as I’m looking at you now, I can proudly say that I was right.

You’ve already given me so much to be proud of.

The way you handle little adversities impresses me. How you cope with being told you can’t do something is inspiring.

And the way you don’t let anyone tell you what to do (other than your daddy and me) makes me want to hug you and never let you go.

You’ve already proven to me that you’re everything I wished you’d be. To think that this is only the beginning makes me want to cry tears of joy.

I cannot wait to see you thrive through high-school, college, and everything that comes next.

There are so many things that I need to tell you right now and I hope I can keep my composure while reminiscing about all of our beautiful moments together.

I pray to God, we remain by each other’s sides for as long as possible, but in case anything ever happens, here’s what I pray I’ve taught you about life.

Never stop pursuing your ambitions and passions

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I love how incredibly passionate you are about people and animals. I watch you proudly every single day as you do little things that you think nobody notices.

Every time I see you pet a stray dog or a kitty, I see that I must’ve done something right. Your kind heart and generosity know no bounds.

The way you care about helping those in need is rare and inspiring.

And I want you to know that you should never stop doing what makes your heart happy.

If this is what you see yourself doing – go ahead and do it! If you want to find a job that allows you to keep showcasing your kind nature, you have my blessing.

If you want to pursue your dreams that don’t necessarily bring in tons of revenue but help so many, that is the noblest thing you could possibly do.

I know you’ll find your way in life. I know that you’ll always land on your feet – you’re too smart not to.

Whatever you end up doing later in life, I just know it’ll be the right decision.

You’re growing up to be a smart, independent woman, and the little things I see you do daily inspired me to write this love letter to you.

You are truly a gem and I’m so proud to call you my girl.

I hope you know that I love you from the bottom of my heart. Whichever thing you end up pursuing, my support is unwavering.

Your words can leave a lasting mark

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But I’m sure you’ve already figured that out. Through life, we all make mistakes. No matter how genuine, hard-working, and kind we are.

It’s okay to slip up – it happens to everyone.

But in your times of struggle, here’s what you should know: What you say during your weakest moments will remain in the other person’s head for a long time.

Be careful what you allow yourself to say. Words have the power to break a person more than you probably understand right now.

To you, it may just be something to shrug off, but to them, it’s something that will haunt them forever.

So please, just be kind to everyone no matter how rude they might be.

Remember – hurt people hurt people! I pray I’ve taught you well enough not to engage with them and just go your way.

Bringing others down will bring you no joy. Find the strength within to walk away from anything that’s counter-productive to your well-being.

Say kind things even when you’re provoked.

Offer a reassuring smile even when you’re being judged. People do unkind things when they’re hurting deep inside.

Show them you’re better than that and don’t stoop to their level. Everybody goes through their trials and tribulations.

But it’s up to you how you choose to react amidst them.

You are deserving of the purest type of love

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Sweetheart, you are one of a kind! You deserve the kind of love that will rock your world.

You deserve the type of man (or woman) who will go to the ends of the earth for you.

Never settle in love. Never let someone offer you bits and pieces. You deserve it all or nothing at all.

You see before I met your daddy, I was a little pessimistic about ever finding someone who’d love me the way I needed to be loved.

I’d had a lot of bad luck when it came to men and I let it get to me.

But after feeling sorry for myself, I decided that it was time to snap out of it and give myself an actual chance at love. And as you know by now, that’s when your father swooped in and won me over.

He was everything I never thought I’d get. He was the type of guy I believed existed only in movies.

But as he was standing there in front of me, I realized that this was real. He was my reality.

And boy, did I feel lucky as hell!

The point I’m trying to make is to never give up! You are so young and there will be a lot of heartbreak.

But I don’t want you to let it discourage you from still looking for your true love.

Whether it’s a man or a woman, you deserve only the best. And one day, I promise you, they will enter your life just as you are about to give up. So don’t.

Remain as hopeful and as positive as you are now. Be with people who bring out the best in you. Don’t accept crumbs of affection, you’re worthy of much more.

I wish I could tell you when exactly it’s going to happen but I can’t.

What I can tell you though is that when you least hope for it, that’s when it usually happens (keep your chin up, the best is yet to come!)

Failure isn’t a weakness, it’s a stepping stone to something better

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Stay strong no matter what life throws at you. Keep your faith even when it’s tested. That is when you’ll need to be brave more than ever.

Sometimes, it’s going to be difficult to stay on your path. Sometimes, you might even fail. But don’t for one second think that failing represents a weakness.

Quite the contrary, my darling.

Only those brave enough to pave their own way will learn how to cope with failure and use it as a stepping stone to something much more meaningful.

Let your mistakes be just that. A learning curve that will help guide you and steer you.

I know your heart. I know your mind. And I know that you’ll never let anyone trample over you.

I know you’ll be strong even if I’m not there to tell you to keep pushing. I just hope you never let yourself feel like a failure on a bad day.

We all struggle at times, and so will you, my baby girl. But don’t let a bad moment make you think that you’re not meant for greatness!

Because I know what you can achieve. And you should too.

Every single mistake you make will help you never do it again. Every single time you don’t get your way, you’ll learn to find another way toward your goals.

Don’t be alarmed if it takes you a bit longer than you’d originally planned. Life is a journey, not a destination.

How you get there is just as important as your final destination.

You’re only human, and you’ll make mistakes along the way. For as long as you don’t let them define you, you’re going to be just fine.

Never waste time comparing yourself to anyone

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I know this is something probably every mom would say, but I genuinely mean it. You are perfect exactly the way you are.

You are gorgeous, smart, funny, intelligent, and genuine. You should never let anyone tell you otherwise.

Comparisons are an utter waste of time.

You were not put on this earth to be the same as anyone else. You were brought here to pave your own way and make a difference!

The way you choose to do things is inspiring because you never let anyone mold your opinions.

You always do things your way, and that is perhaps my most favorite thing about you.

I pray to God that never changes. Never let a guy (or girl) make you feel like you’re not enough.

Those who know how to appreciate you will never make you doubt your worth. Surround yourself only with those who uplift and encourage you.

Weed out anyone who makes you feel lesser. You are way too amazing to be wasting time on toxic people.

Your friend circle should remain strong and small. As you grow older, you’ll realize how important it is to have a few good friends as opposed to a dozen acquaintances.

In life, it’s crucial to have someone you can lean on any time of the day. Anyone who makes you feel like you’re less amazing than you are doesn’t deserve you.

Always be yourself and keep doing what makes your heart happy.

Never follow in anyone’s footsteps and just do you. I promise you, the right people will never make you feel alone for a second.

I love you more than you’ll ever know

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Your daddy and I will always have your back. Through thick and thin, good times and bad.

There is nothing you can do or say that will ever change the way we love you, and I hope you know that you can always turn to me in times of need. 

Baby girl, you are my biggest accomplishment and nothing will ever compare. The day you entered my life was the day everything else became a little less important.

Family is everything, and you made me see that. I love you more than you know and your happiness is my happiness.

Remember last Mother’s day when you made me that gift from scratch? That meant more to me than any gift you ever could’ve bought.

And do you know why?

Because it came from the heart. It was personal, genuine, and showed me that you know me better than I thought was possible.

I pray that one day you have a daughter every bit as amazing as you are. Only then will you be able to understand the depth behind these words.

A mother’s love knows no bounds. To you, those are just words, and that’s okay. But one day, you’ll see how incredibly true this is.

And I pray that I’m right there by your side when you do. 

Writing this proud letter to my daughter has made me see now more than ever what a beautiful person you are slowly becoming.

Your life is only beginning, my love.

The future holds so many amazing things, and I’m looking forward to seeing you conquer the world one day.

This open letter has allowed me to say everything I carry in my heart and I mean every single word I said. Know that I have your back today, tomorrow, and every following day.

Keep shining that beautiful light of yours, and I’ll always be watching proudly knowing I’ve done something right.

Love you always and forever,

Mom

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Written by Ivana Davies

Hey there mamas! I'm Ivana, a millenial mom of two wonderful kids. I was a teacher, but now I'm a stay-at-home mom running this blog with the goal of uniting all moms into a supportive community and providing insight into the everyday battle of motherhood.