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When You Feel Like Giving Up Breastfeeding In The Early Days (And What To Do About It)

When You Feel Like Giving Up Breastfeeding In The Early Days (And What To Do About It)

If you’re reading this blog post, you’re probably exhausted. Beyond exhausted.

Your boobs are sore and your nipples feel like they’re on fire. You’re ready to throw in the towel and give up breastfeeding.

After my oldest was born, I had some post-delivery complications which made breastfeeding extremely challenging.

I was ready to quit before my baby was even a week old.

You may have pictured in your mind what breastfeeding would be like. Beautiful, serene.

A wonderful bonding experience.

But now that baby is finally here, breastfeeding feels more like a chore. Hugs, mama! It won’t always feel that way.


In your mind, you know breast milk is the absolute best for your baby. But  you’re so tired!

I felt this way, too. If this describes you, here are:

8 things you can do to help yourself push through

1. Remind yourself of the benefits.

Young mother breastfeeding her newborn baby on sofa

Read 101 Reasons to Breastfeed.

Reading this list was what kept me going. It really reminded me of all the great reasons I had chosen to breastfeed.

RELATED: Breast Milk Facts: 25+ Mind-Blowing Benefits of Breast Milk

2. Use self-talk

Remind yourself that it will get better.

Say encouraging things to yourself, such as, “I can do this. I am determined. I am able.”

The mind is a powerful thing, so be sure to speak positivity to yourself!

3 Call a friend.

Three women in a coffee shop

Do you have a mom-friend who breastfed?

Call her! Ask for the encouragement! Don’t know any breastfeeding mamas? Get together and talk it out.

Also, join our supportive Facebook group to meet others going through the same struggles. We offer support and encouragement!

4. Call in the professionals.

Woman talking on phone

Call a breastfeeding helpline.

I have used The Feeding Expert in the past with great success.

The breastfeeding consultants are super-helpful and will offer you advice and encouragement.

5. See an in-person lactation consultant.

I was fortunate that my baby’s pediatrician had an on-site lactation consultant.

She was amazing and really encouraged me. Find an IBCLC here.

6. Take a break.

woman drinking coffee in morning with sunshine

Having a baby attached to you 24/7 can leave you feeling “touched out.”

If you can, have someone else hold the baby while you (gasp) shower. Or nap.

Or go for a short walk. Listen to some tunes, get some sunshine. Even if it’s only five to ten minutes, give yourself permission for a little self-care.

7. Take it one day at a time.

Woman breastfeeding baby

Don’t worry about tomorrow or next week or next month.

Focus on getting through today.

8. Reach out.

Don’t have anyone to talk to? Drop me a line. I’m happy to lend an ear and support you in any way I can.

Have you ever felt like giving up breastfeeding? What helped you?

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J Kontos

Monday 27th of August 2018

This is such a great article! I wish I would have read it earlier ?. - J from