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From Mom Rage to Cool, Calm & Collected (almost instantly!)

From Mom Rage to Cool, Calm & Collected (almost instantly!)

For as long as I can remember, I’ve always wanted to be a mom. I had a lot of expectations about the kind of parent I’d be.

I knew I wanted to be a peaceful parent, and I swore I’d never yell at my kids.

Well, fast-forward many years and three kids later. Whew!

I didn’t know what I was getting myself into! I try really hard to be a positive parent and use gentle discipline techniques, but I’m not perfect by any means.

If you’re reading this post, chances are you might be feeling discouraged or guilty about a recent interaction with your child. Let me be the first to give you a big virtual hug and remind you that we’ve all been there…

…And to encourage you that you’re in the right place. There’s no such thing as the perfect mom. We are just a work in progress.

Kids can be strong-willed sometimes, and they love to push our buttons. If you want to:

  • Stop yelling at your kids
  • Learn, “Why am I an angry mom?”
  • Figure out how to be a calmer parent
  • Become a more peaceful parent
  • Or, get peaceful discipline ideas

…This post is for you!

The two words that transformed my parenting

The other day during my quiet time, I read the story of when Jesus fed the 5,000. (Even if you’re not spiritual, stay with me!

I promise you’ll get something out of this!) Jesus and his disciples got in a boat to find some solitude away from all the people. (Hello, self-care!)

But when they reached their destination, instead of isolation, they saw a massive crowd of people.

Have you ever wanted to be alone but a crowd of kids needed you? (Okay, maybe just one or two kids…depending on how many you have!)

Mark 6:34 says, “When Jesus landed and saw a large crowd, he had compassion on them…”

Jesus didn’t feel annoyed with the crowd. Despite craving alone time, he wasn’t angry or irritable. He had COMPASSION on them. (Mind = blown.)

That was such a huge “ah-ha” moment for me!

How many times have I been interrupted and felt irritated by a child who needed me when I needed to get something done?

How often do I feel angry when I’m craving alone time, but one of my kids needs me?

I began to pray that the God would help me to be like Him…compassionate when I see my kids.

Related reading: Self-Control for Moms: 8 Ways to Stay Calm (Instead of Losing Your Cool)

A few days later I was given an opportunity.

Choose compassion. | From Angry Mom to Calm Mom (in 0.5 seconds!)

I was downstairs busily working while my husband and our three kids were upstairs. All of a sudden I heard my son and my youngest daughter get into a BIG argument.

He was yelling and screaming at her. So I marched up the stairs and I was SO angry.

Mom rage in full effect

I thought, “How dare he treat her that way!”

Everyone else saw the look on my face and quickly exited the room. I was ready to let him have it.

Then I noticed my son sitting on his bed, knees to his chest and tears streaming down his face.

Those two little words came into my mind.

Choose compassion

Almost instantly my heart changed from mom rage and I was filled with compassion for my son.

Instead of “letting him have it” like I wanted to, my heart broke for him. I invited him to climb on my lap.

Rubbing his back, I held him close and didn’t say anything at all…I just held him.

Within a few minutes, words started flowing with his tears.

He poured his heart out to me about some things that have been on his mind…some struggles he has had with the adjustment of having a new baby. He talked and cried while I held him.

I wiped his tears and validated his concerns, assuring him that his feelings were completely normal.

Once he finished talking and had calmed down, we talked about how it is okay to feel angry but not okay to yell and scream at his sister.

He decided to apologize to her and they hugged and made up.

The rest of the day he played happily and he and his little sister got along fine.

How often do we hurry to discipline and miss out on the deeper issue?

How often do we drive a wedge between ourselves and our children instead of building connection and strengthening our bond?

This was a huge light bulb moment for me.

If I had marched upstairs and “let him have it” like I wanted to, I would have completely missed out on hearing his heart.

Not only that, but he would have probably felt worse. He likely would have felt resentful towards both me and his sister…which would have likely led to further misbehavior.

I’m so thankful God heard my prayer and intervened in my heart that day. 

I hope this story inspires you to remember those two little words the next tie you’re about to lose it on your kids.

Choose compassion.

PS – Do you desire to be a more peaceful parent and want to build a closer bond with your child? Check out my private Facebook group for Christian moms learning and growing together towards more intentional parenting. (You can also follow us on Pinterest and Facebook)

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Saturday 16th of September 2023

Thank you so much for this, I needed to read this today!