Positive Discipline – The Real Reason Why Our Tone of Voice Matters
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If you’re reading this article, chances are you’re looking for:
Discipline techniques for children
Discipline ideas for kids
Positive discipline ideas
Or… How to discipline your kids without messing them up in the process. (Haha.)
I’m not the kind of person who loves to dish about my short-comings, but I feel like this story is important enough to make myself vulnerable and share this.
My hope is that by sharing my mistake, it will help others.
My positive discipline FAIL
Peaceful parenting is my jam and I felt pretty confident in my ability to maintain self-control…until that one Saturday.
As I cleaned up the supper dishes, my son came over to check out the new groceries his dad had just brought home.
“Oooh, new cookies!” he excitedly proclaimed. My husband brought home some oatmeal raisin cookies. “Can I try one?” he asked.
“Sure thing, buddy,” I said as I helped him open the bag.
He took the cookie out of the bag and took a bite as I kept cleaning. When I glanced over at him, he had a look on his face. (You know the look…the look you have when you bite into an oatmeal raisin cookie, haha.)
“Mommy, I don’t think I like this cookie,” he said, putting the half-eaten cookie back in the bag. (Gasp.)
My eyes widened.
“Alex!” I exclaimed. “We do not bite off of food and put it back in the bag! That’s not nice! You just put your germs from that cookie into that brand new bag of cookies!”
I didn’t yell, but I did raise my voice. My tone was accusatory.
Germs are my trigger, and I let him have it.
Eyes downcast, my son mumbled under his breath, “Mommy, you think I’m the worst kid ever.”