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Potty Training: Why We Wait to Potty Train Until Age 3

Potty Training: Why We Wait to Potty Train Until Age 3

Potty training, toilet learning… whatever you call it, it usually fills every parent with dread.

Fewer parenting tasks are more nerve-wracking, time-consuming, and frustrating.

I always dread the potty training days. My youngest, Sarah is now two and a half years old and we are starting to get the dreaded question… “When are you going to start potty training her?”

I usually answer, “Not anytime soon!”

The truth is, we don’t potty train our kids until at least age three.

If you’re stressing about potty training, I feel you, mama.

Take a deep breath and give yourself permission not to rush it. All children are not the same, and not every child is ready to potty train by age two.

If your little one is struggling with potty training or isn’t showing any interest, it’s perfectly okay to wait until they’re ready.

Disclaimer: If you potty trained your child before age three, please know I’m not shaming you.

This article is written from a place of love and geared towards moms who don’t wait to toilet train early, or whose kiddos aren’t quite ready yet.

5 Reasons Why You Should Wait to Potty Train Until the Age of 3

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1. Bladder size

At three years old, a child’s bladder is going to be a tad bit bigger than a 1 or 2 year old’s.

This means less frequent trips to the bathroom and less frustration for mama.

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2. Receptive and Expressive Language

By the time a toddler turns three, their expressive and receptive language is typically more developed.

This means the child is better able to understand what using the toilet means and how it works. They’re also better able to communicate when they need to go.

Here are some books I use to teach my kids about using the potty.

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3. Hygiene

If you’ve been following my blog, you know that I’m a huge germaphobe.

Proper hand washing is crucial in our house.

At one or two years old, a toddler is less likely to be willing to wash their hands properly…or to have you help them at the sink.

My two-year-old is so stubborn, she won’t accept help at all. She has to do everything by herself. (“Me do it!”)

And her little arms are too short to even reach the sink, even when standing on a stool!

These are some of my must-have hygiene products for potty training:

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4. Independence

If you try to potty train your toddler at one or two years old, they’ll likely need a LOT of help.

They’ll need help with pulling their clothes up and down, you’ll need to visit the potty with them (every five minutes), help them wash their hands, etc. etc.

One major advantage of waiting until age three is that they will be able to do much of this by themselves.

5. Time

With all of the above-mentioned benefits, hopefully a three-year-old will catch on more quickly to potty training and learn to use the toilet independently.

My kids caught on relatively quickly to potty training and we dealt with very few accidents. (Which means less mess, too!)

Do you wait till age three to potty train? What benefit would you add to this list?

Once you decide to start potty train, I recommend using this training seat:


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Why We Wait to Potty Train Until Age 3

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Monday 2nd of March 2020

I totally agree! As a mom of six kids, I waited until the last one was three to potty train her and it was so much easier! I just did an interview with a potty training consultant and she confirmed some of my theories, one being that if you train before three, you are the one responsible for helping, reminding, dealing with accidents, etc. until they are three. A lot of parents want to train sooner and that’s great for them, but I’d rather wait!


Thursday 13th of September 2018

Great post! i think i will have to wait till my son gets older before potty training too. can't face the stress


Monday 19th of November 2018

Yes! Waiting to potty train is a huge stress-saver!